Sunday, April 17, 2011

An Emotionless Gift?

I have been told that I'm not as emotional as I should be about this egg donation thing. So, I have thought about it. And here's what I've come up with:

When you do a favor for a friend, and they say "thank you," do you say "well, it was kind of a pain, but you're welcome" or "yeah, you have no idea how much you owe me" or do you say "anytime!"

Because I'm an "anytime!" kind of gal. I assume that whoever I did the favor for knows that I went out of my way to help them, and they're thankful for that.

And I do realize that donating my eggs is big. Really big. And I realize that not anyone would do it. I realize that it's giving a lot of myself and my time. I realize that it's not only a 6 week process, but there may be some emotional stuff, like, having a niece or nephew who has my DNA. That might be strange. The child may look similar to my children. The child may have disabilities, and I may feel bad about that. There may not even be a child that comes from this, so my gift may not end up being an actual "gift."

And though far-fetched, if K and her husband both die at the same time, they may will their child to someone. So, the child with my DNA may be brought up by someone I don't know. But that's ok, because it's not my child.

I have thought about all of this. But I'm just not the type of person to remind everyone of what a big deal it is. Don't worry, though. I'm thinking about it, and I'm sure that I'm ok with it.

I have told a few people about this, and they have all said something like, "Wow. That's amazing. I don't know if I could do that."

Would you every reply with, "Yup. It is amazing. Aren't I great?"

You wouldn't. You would say what I have said.

"You would do the same thing if you could."

Which is the truth. You would do it if you could.

So now that I have acknowledged this and the big deal that it is, can we move past this? If you can't tell, praise makes me a little uncomfortable.

:)

6 comments:

  1. Well, get used to it. Because we love & support you.

    Excited to be a part of this journey with you!

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  2. You're an amazing woman! Thank you for sharing your journey with me. You truly do have the heart the size of Texas!

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  3. Love this. You are amazing, for this and so many other reasons.
    I never would have called you "emotionless" about it. Simply humble, and matter-of-fact, and true.

    -C

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  4. I agree with the above comment. Simply humble :)

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  5. Awesome. Wonderful. You say it is nothing, but what a wonderful gift to give someone. The gift of life.

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  6. a shining example of being compassionate, beautiful, good, honest, principled, determined, independent, sensitive and brilliant by stepping up to the plate and making an enormous sacrificial decision to bring unspeakable happiness and joy into another couple's life. I am so proud...and so very in love with you as a daughter, mom, niece. Someone is smiling down from above and beaming, that is for certain :)

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